Let me tell you about my friend. You know when you meet someone and they have an inner beauty? They have a caring nature, an infectious sense of humour, smart, authentic, genuine, I could list a lot more of the kind of attributes of my friend. What angers me is not that they have been wronged. What gets my goat is they have been hurt from a wilful conscious decision. Not a mistake. Even if I accept it was an initial mistake there was an ongoing deception that was definitely premeditated.
I could just sit and fizz but that won’t help anyone. So what am I going to do? I am going to turn round my anger and turn to helping my friend. Negative emotion won’t change my friend and it won’t resolve anything. But being supportive and helping them to get on their feet and to do what is best for them, well that is going to change things. Me focussing on the wrongs and how I feel about that won’t change anything, it will probably only exasperate the situation and prolong the pain. (P.S. These pictures and words made me laugh and think, I hope they do for you also.) Below is for My friend and maybe it’s something you need to hear too.