Have you ever had someone say something to or about you that was hurtful or destructive? I remember one such event very specifically. As I have said in my previous blog I was an engineering apprentice and when I graduated I went for a job that I was very interested in. It was to supervise a new robotic line, real cutting edge stuff. Anyway when I trained there were craft apprentices who were being trained to work on assembly lines and technical apprentices who were trained to be in positions that linked the shop floor to the manufacturing process, I was the latter, we already covered my inept hands. Anyway the guy that got the job was a craft apprentice and I didn’t even get an interview. I remember speaking to the guy in HR that was dealing with the interviews, Tommy -we were mates, and he told me the manager Des had said “It’s not WORTH interviewing him.” Now I don’t think Tommy did me any favours by quoting him, as you can imagine I was devastated to hear that and yet the hearing my WORTH was in question was something I knew was wrong, I had WORTH, I was better educated and actually had better skills in this field. I was fortunate that I knew the words that had been said were not true, I think that could have crushed someone else. Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me – Eh I don’t think so! Now we can’t change what others say about us but we can do the same kind of damage to ourselves. I don’t know about you but there are times in life where I have been hyper critical of myself. If anyone should give us a break I think it should be ourselves. So rather than beating yourself up why not take actions towards resolving the root cause of any bad thoughts (anger, fear, doubt, hate,...). Cancel each one out with a good thought called affirmations: "I'm over that." "I am brave!" "I know I can do it!" "I forgive and I do not hate!" You may not be feeling the best at the moment, but you will feel better once you think about good things. Think about all of the things life has to offer, because though things may be horrible at the moment -- the future holds a lot of hope. It should make you smile and not store negative feelings to be relived later.