Well, yesterday I went to Paisley and met a guy called Colin and saw the start of the Monte Carlo Car Rally. It was great to see so many old cars, it was quite an event, even the rain stayed off. It was packed with car enthusiasts all viing for photo’s of their cars. Colin had an extensive knowledge of the cars. If you wanted to see a load of men, and some women, to go through regression therapy and release their inner child, it was a great place to be, yup me too.
Which brings me around to what is going on in my thoughts. It is easy to miss out on things due to our preconceived ideas. Ideas that might be formed on the opinions of the masses. I am not saying we shouldn’t take soundings from others when buying things. However, we should make our own minds up. It is so easy to miss out in life if we follow the masses. It is also possible to misjudge others rather than making our own minds up. I remember back at school I was accused of stealing something. There was pressure to admit it but as I hadn’t taken it I wasn’t going to do that. I was shunned by many. I remember the apology I got when the missing item reappeared. I had been ostracised and that stopped, I would like to say the experience didn’t affect me. These days I would be far more likely to say “F*** them” and get on with life. The point is it is easy to judge others, not because we know but we have heard. It took me time in ministry to start to see this insidious tact being used by some. “People are saying.” Nameless faceless people. You can’t deal with that, you can’t address that. It took me time to realise that was a tool that was used not to raise the concerns or issues of others but for someone to use guilt to drive their own agenda, shame on them. They didn’t have the balls to say to my face this is what I struggle with, this is what I am finding hard. Oh no, “people are saying”. If that’s is something you are trying to deal with I hope this perspective helps and if you are someone that uses that tact, man (or woman) up and say it as it is.